Accepting yourself after reaching your goals

As we are two months into the new year and many of you are crushing your goals, here is a friendly reminder to stay positive, take care of yourself, and make sure that everything you are doing for yourself and your health are for the right reasons! It’s easy to be hard on ourselves especially for our outward appearance, but the real challenge comes with accepting who we are and loving our bodies in every condition.

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The mind is a funny thing. When you are living a life that is totally unhealthy and you’re bordering on obesity, your body lets you know. It’s normal to feel uncomfortable when you have too much fat on your body. When you decide to change that, to live a healthier life, your body responds accordingly.

  • Your blood pressure decreases
  • Your heart rate normalizes
  • Your mind becomes clearer
  • You have more energy
  • Your self-esteem skyrockets

The mind really is a funny thing, and it’s your mind that often makes you see yourself in a way that the rest of the world doesn’t. If you haven’t heard of it, body dysmorphia is a real thing; it’s when you look in the mirror and you see a completely distorted view of yourself. The tricks the mind can play on you can mean that once you reach your goal weight and you are a healthy BMI, you can still see yourself with the thighs and tummy that you hate.

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People choose to lose weight for various reasons. For some, it’s about getting into a pair of dream jeans that they’ve always wanted to get into. For others, it’s about living longer and stronger for the people who are important to them. Weight is a very personal issue, and it can have some surprising effects on your life.

The goal to lose weight can come with very desired results when you get to the finish line, but it can also have a result you may not want.

Some people get through to their goal and come crashing down to earth when they realize that the world hasn’t changed, that they still aren’t any happier. If you pour all your expectations of a happy life into your weight loss goals, you’re going to be seriously disappointed.

Any huge transformation, whether that be a large weight drop, or going on to schedule a consultation to alter your body with surgery, can come with shock. Your eyes and your mind are used to your body the way that it is, so a change isn’t always easy to cope with.

There is so much that is to be celebrated when body goals are met: the sheer strength of character to get where you want to go, the renewed health and the complete energy boost are just a few reasons that celebration is in order.

Relaxing into the new normal and getting used to your body goal is definitely not easy though. Some people describe their post-goal experience as a reality check, because they’ve placed all their expectations of happiness into their figure rather than their actual life. Losing all the fat can lead to loose skin, stretch marks and a sagging that wasn’t there before. And this can sometimes be disappointing.

You can also find that the social response you receive in response to your massive transformation affects your mental health. Sure, you are healthier, you’re fitter and you’re slimmer than ever, but perhaps you weren’t quite prepared for the mental toll it would take.


So, how do you move into that zone of acceptance?

Firstly, aim to go into your weight loss journey with the idea that you are doing it for your health, not for your happiness.

You cannot weight your expectations in your happiness. You will absolutely feel more confident and happier, yes, but your lifetime happiness cannot be the filler of those jeans that you’ve drooled over. Re-calibrating your expectations from the beginning is so important if you expect to gain self-respect.

Weight loss won’t fix all of your life problems. It won’t make your marriage better. It won’t make your boss less mean to you. If you think that being slim is going to make your whole life fall into place, you are losing the weight for the wrong reasons. You have to understand that the only thing that’ll change the things in your life that you don’t like is you.

Losing weight doesn’t mean that you will reach the holy grail of physical perfection

But you have to find a place that you feel comfortable in your skin. Part of that will be your weight loss, but part of that will also be the way that you view yourself because of it. Change leaves us feeling out of sorts for a while, especially if you’ve had a very big change in a short space of time. It’s the reason weight loss should be gradual: it gives you a chance to get used to your body as it shrinks!

Lastly, you have to let go of the opinions of other people

It’s something that you’ll learn properly as you get older, but the only opinion that matters is your own. Yes, it’s nice to get healthy and be a healthy BMI, but it’s only nice if you are happy with yourself. Others will always have their judgements and opinions, it doesn’t mean you have to let it rule your life or affect your mood. Go out, get your goals and rock them every single day.

Thanks for much for reading guys. Don’t forget to love yourselves just the way you are and happiness will come soon after!

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